by Spouses Anonymous | Oct 12, 2023 | Addiction, Coping, Marriage, Relationships
I lost myself trying to find balance in the imbalanced, peace in the chaos, love in the hate, togetherness in the separate, truth in the lies, and holy in the unholy. My plate was full: taking care of my job, taking care of the house, taking care of the kids, and...
by Spouses Anonymous | Oct 5, 2023 | Addiction, Coping, Marriage, Relationships
In the beginning, my spouse and I did many loving things together as a married couple. It wasn’t all bad, and I have plenty of pretty pictures to prove it. But as the addictive behavior continued, the marriage deteriorated, and life got uglier. My spouse fell asleep...
by Spouses Anonymous | Sep 28, 2023 | Addiction, Coping, Marriage, Relationships
My spouse withheld the grocery money I was promised the day before, and I got paid the following week. I stood in the kitchen, purse in hand, asking for money, and my spouse cut me off, double-talking and lying about not having money until two days later. The ugly...
by Spouses Anonymous | Sep 21, 2023 | Addiction, Coping, Marriage, Relationships
After the chaos and a week of not speaking, my spouse called me at work; it could have been about the children, so I answered. I accepted his apology so we could move on, but before I knew it, I apologized too, even though I was innocent. When I hung up, I felt...
by Spouses Anonymous | Sep 14, 2023 | Addiction, Coping, Marriage, Relationships
The explosion exploded, and the children witnessed the battle, so how do we go forward navigating the land mines. The aftermath of a fight can be just as bad: silence, slamming doors, snide remarks, tension, MIA father. I am on guard duty in my own home, trying to...
by Spouses Anonymous | Sep 7, 2023 | Addiction, Coping, Marriage, Relationships
Being in a marriage with an addict feels like a war sometimes. The kids are collateral damage, the home becomes a battlefield, and the bedrooms become trenches. The children retreated in shock and silence the first time they saw a full-blown explosion of rage between...
