by Spouses Anonymous | Jan 18, 2024 | Codependency, Marriage, Relationships, Self Help
I am in a living hell that cannot be sustained. I still have mini meltdowns in my car and bathroom when I’m sabotaged or set up. I deal with it and try to be aware next time to catch the signs and ward them off. He invades my space, talking crazy, I absorb the verbal...
by Spouses Anonymous | Jan 11, 2024 | Codependency, Marriage, Relationships, Self Help
I try to ignore my spouse when he comes looking for a fight. He’s craving chaos, so he provokes me by picking on the kids. I intervene, de-escalate, and tell the kids in his presence: it’s not about you; pray, forgive, and move on. I’m wriggling out of my spouse’s...
by Spouses Anonymous | Jan 4, 2024 | Codependency, Marriage, Relationships, Self Help
I had a love-hate relationship with myself because I didn’t know who I was. I grew up witnessing my parents’ love-hate relationship. I absorbed mixed messages and wrong messages from the messengers: my parents. I never got helpful messages to explain the ugly parts to...
by Spouses Anonymous | Dec 28, 2023 | Codependency, Marriage, Relationships, Self Help
I don’t know if I love my spouse anymore, but I don’t hate him. I hate his behavior. I know my spouse doesn’t love me, but I don’t know if he hates me. He acts like he hates me. Maybe he hates that I’m moving forward. If I love my spouse, it’s not...
by Spouses Anonymous | Dec 21, 2023 | Codependency, Marriage, Relationships, Self Help
For over a decade, we argued over money, sex, cheating, weed, lying, unfair distribution of duties, family, friends, AA, church, fixing things around the house, and if it’s sunny or cloudy. Arguing the same talking points is not moving forward. It takes two to argue,...
by Spouses Anonymous | Dec 14, 2023 | Codependency, Marriage, Relationships, Self Help
Communication was non-existent because I was too emotional, overreacted, and stopped listening to my spouse—verbal abuse, shame and blame, and lying added fuel to the fire. I am civil when we talk about the kids or say hi & bye. But to get healthy and move on, I...
