Let it Go

by | Nov 9, 2023 | Codependency, Marriage, Relationships, Self Help

  I will not heal overnight. Baby steps. The knowledge of knowing I can only change myself was a revelation. But could I apply the remedies from the AA pamphlet in real-time, under the same roof as my spouse, while I’m still messed up.  How do I shed my anger,...

Out of Denial

by | Nov 2, 2023 | Codependency, Marriage, Relationships, Self Help

I stopped asking my spouse personal questions about his whereabouts and the behavior I tried to cover up. I accepted that my spouse is an addict, liar, abuser, cheater, and I can’t fix him. I did whatever I could to protect myself and the kids from anxiety. I dealt...

Acceptance

by | Oct 26, 2023 | Codependency, Marriage, Relationships, Self Help

My spouse and I are older but still cycle through ups and downs, truces, and false hope. My spouse’s AA books and recovery paraphernalia sat on a table in his mancave/bedroom/living room. I wasn’t allowed to touch them. I resented his AA stuff anyway because they...

I Gave as Good as I Got

by | Oct 19, 2023 | Addiction, Marriage, Relationships

I wasn’t innocent, but I never cheated on my spouse.  My dad was a serial cheater, which made me immune to the snake charms of married men. Instead, I became the moral authority. That was my sin. I weaponized my morality. Thou shalt not commit adultery was my mantra....