by Spouses Anonymous | Dec 14, 2023 | Codependency, Marriage, Relationships, Self Help
Communication was non-existent because I was too emotional, overreacted, and stopped listening to my spouse—verbal abuse, shame and blame, and lying added fuel to the fire. I am civil when we talk about the kids or say hi & bye. But to get healthy and move on, I...
by Spouses Anonymous | Dec 7, 2023 | Codependency, Marriage, Relationships, Self Help
I dealt with the dead about the past; now it’s time to deal with the living about the present. Just because I acknowledged feelings inwardly about the past doesn’t mean I mastered the art of dealing with my feelings outwardly. There is a whole range of feelings and...
by Spouses Anonymous | Nov 30, 2023 | Codependency, Marriage, Relationships, Self Help
My fiancé and I decided to live together; we were a happy family planning our wedding. I thought I had him hooked, so I tried to change him. I demanded his time after work and constantly called when he was out drinking with the guys. I didn’t trust him; I never did. ...
by Spouses Anonymous | Nov 23, 2023 | Codependency, Marriage, Relationships, Self Help
For me, getting healthy means starting at the beginning. How did I get here. I’ve been acting-out unresolved issues from my past under the guise of living. To go forward, I have to go backward. I remembered loud arguments between my parents as far back as the sixth...
by Spouses Anonymous | Nov 16, 2023 | Codependency, Marriage, Relationships, Self Help
Moving forward means taking action. Letting go is an act in itself. I don’t have the time nor energy to come home from work, cook, tend to the kids, deal with the chaos, and drive across town to attend meetings. But honestly, even if I did have the time, I don’t want...
by Spouses Anonymous | Nov 9, 2023 | Codependency, Marriage, Relationships, Self Help
I will not heal overnight. Baby steps. The knowledge of knowing I can only change myself was a revelation. But could I apply the remedies from the AA pamphlet in real-time, under the same roof as my spouse, while I’m still messed up. How do I shed my anger,...
