by Spouses Anonymous | May 30, 2024 | Healing, Independence, Relationships, Self Care
I was the opposite of being my own person. I wasn’t in control of my life; I allowed others to influence me, and I was dependent on others emotionally. I was over-helping, over-compensating, over-advising, over-focusing on others, over-ignoring my needs, over-taking...
by Spouses Anonymous | May 23, 2024 | Healing, Independence, Relationships, Self Care
I am grateful. Being grateful and thankful are similar in meaning and interchangeable expressions. To me, being thankful can be more in the moment or temporary when something good happens to me or for me, like receiving a gift or helping me out. You did something nice...
by Spouses Anonymous | May 16, 2024 | Healing, Independence, Relationships, Self Care
When I separated from my spouse, I was physically removed from the toxicity and instantly felt free. I was off the drug of keeping the focus on my spouse while trying to change and bend him to my will. But I was still hooked on the marriage and shackled to my spouse...
by Spouses Anonymous | May 9, 2024 | Healing, Independence, Relationships, Self Care
I decided to move on. I knew he would never make the first move, so I invited my spouse to my apartment for coffee and told him my intentions to divorce him. To my surprise, he accepted my decision but disagreed with it. My spouse lived at the house, and I took...
by Spouses Anonymous | May 2, 2024 | Healing, Independence, Relationships, Self Care
After the new year, my spouse called and we compared notes: he shared his loneliness and post-separation setbacks, and I expressed my struggles, not about past hurts, but past happiness. We have loneliness in common and longing for past happiness and companionship...
by Spouses Anonymous | Apr 25, 2024 | Healing, Independence, Relationships, Self Care
When my spouse and I split, he told me never to ask him for a dime; I haven’t, he stayed true to himself and never offered me a penny. Before I left my spouse, I did a lot and now that I’m on my own, I do it all. Freedom is expensive, and I find myself struggling...
