by Spouses Anonymous | Mar 28, 2024 | Healing, Independence, Relationships, Self Care
My beds and desk have arrived. I make my bed and flop on it like a kid. I do not know if it is a flash or for real, but right now I feel happy. I set my telework equipment up and arranged my desk. I am back at work. My apartment is completely furnished. My paid-off...
by Spouses Anonymous | Mar 21, 2024 | Healing, Independence, Relationships, Self Care
We unloaded and returned the U-Haul on time. Back at the apartment, I surveyed a maze of marked boxes and an ungodly amount of work yet to be done. My mood swung from one extreme to the other. I marveled at the first sunset at my new apartment but grieved the last...
by Spouses Anonymous | Mar 14, 2024 | Marriage, Moving Forward, Relationships, Self Care
My spouse tried to smooth over his abusive behavior with his usual tactics. I listened and looked him in the eye while he played the victim and blamed me. He finished, and I told him: this is the last straw; I’m leaving and filing for divorce. I saw the muscles in his...
by Spouses Anonymous | Mar 7, 2024 | Marriage, Moving Forward, Relationships, Self Care
I took the day off from work for no reason other than I wanted to. My spouse worked in the field, and I was sipping coffee and watching a movie in my recliner. We were in truce mode, and my spirits were good. I planned an afternoon of taking a walk and browsing the...
by Spouses Anonymous | Feb 29, 2024 | Marriage, Moving Forward, Relationships, Self Care
Even though I continue to build my savings account, my spouse is better off financially, and I asked him to leave, but enraged, he told me: this is my house! We didn’t revisit our tabled conversation about rekindling our marriage; we continued the cycle of truce, hot...
by Spouses Anonymous | Feb 15, 2024 | Marriage, Moving Forward, Relationships, Self Care
My financial anxiety came monthly, like the bills. The uncertainty of getting my spouse’s share made me grovel and flatter him, hoping his portion would be exact and timely. The imbalance in our financial responsibilities caused me to overspend unintentionally....