by Spouses Anonymous | Feb 1, 2024 | Marriage, Moving Forward, Relationships, Self Care
I keep busy as I wait, hope, pray, and fantasize about leaving my abusive marriage. I don’t mean household chores, errands, my job, school activities, or reluctantly helping my spouse with his job. I mean, on my off days, when everything is clean and washed, it’s just...
by Spouses Anonymous | Jan 25, 2024 | Marriage, Moving Forward, Relationships, Self Care
My long-suffering mother maintained her dignity until the day she died. I modeled dignity from my mom before my marriage and during my marriage. But when my marriage unraveled, I became undignified. I took the moral high ground and got in the gutter with my spouse. I...
by Spouses Anonymous | Jan 18, 2024 | Codependency, Marriage, Relationships, Self Help
I am in a living hell that cannot be sustained. I still have mini meltdowns in my car and bathroom when I’m sabotaged or set up. I deal with it and try to be aware next time to catch the signs and ward them off. He invades my space, talking crazy, I absorb the verbal...
by Spouses Anonymous | Jan 11, 2024 | Codependency, Marriage, Relationships, Self Help
I try to ignore my spouse when he comes looking for a fight. He’s craving chaos, so he provokes me by picking on the kids. I intervene, de-escalate, and tell the kids in his presence: it’s not about you; pray, forgive, and move on. I’m wriggling out of my spouse’s...
by Spouses Anonymous | Jan 4, 2024 | Codependency, Marriage, Relationships, Self Help
I had a love-hate relationship with myself because I didn’t know who I was. I grew up witnessing my parents’ love-hate relationship. I absorbed mixed messages and wrong messages from the messengers: my parents. I never got helpful messages to explain the ugly parts to...
by Spouses Anonymous | Dec 28, 2023 | Codependency, Marriage, Relationships, Self Help
I don’t know if I love my spouse anymore, but I don’t hate him. I hate his behavior. I know my spouse doesn’t love me, but I don’t know if he hates me. He acts like he hates me. Maybe he hates that I’m moving forward. If I love my spouse, it’s not...
